If Sex Is Painful This May Be One Of The Reasons.

Sometimes women say things like it was so painful but maybe in a good way because it was so enjoyable and most of the time it’s not painful, but if every time you and your partner have sex it’s painful then maybe you need to consult with your doctor.

I looked up the topic to see what I could find because I’ve been told this by a couple of clients and decided to look into some of the different things that it could be.

According to a article in the Health magazine these are a couple of reasons for painful sex.

Vaginal dryness

One reason you might feel pain as a partner puts their penis, fingers, or a sex toy into your vagina is because there’s not enough natural or synthetic lubricant. Vaginas get dryer for several reasons, though one of the most common is menopause. “When someone goes through menopause the vaginal tissue gets thin and sensitive, their labia decrease in size, their vagina feels tighter and dryer,” Nicole Bullock, DO, FACOG, an OB/GYN with Abilene Physician Group in Texas, tells Health. “Inserting anything vaginally is going to become an issue.”

Other reasons someone might have dryness in their vagina is because they’ve started a new birth control that affects their estrogen levels, because they’re breast feeding, or because of certain cancer treatments.

What can help: If you’re dry because of menopause or breast feeding, try over-the-counter vaginal moisturizers (“yes, just like using facial moisturizers”), Mary Jane Minkin, MD, FACOG, Clinical Professor of Obstetrics at Yale University School of Medicine tells Health. If those don’t work, try an internal vaginal moisturizer that includes some estrogen. Talk to your doctor about trying a new birth control if you think that’s contributing. And, of course, lube is a vaginal dryness remedy that makes sex better at any age.


Yeast infections, bacterial vaginosis, urinary tract infections, and sexually transmitted infections are some of the most common causes of pain during sex, according to Dr. Gupta. Infections typically cause some swelling and inflammation in the vagina, which can make sex very uncomfortable. If you have a strange vaginal discharge; your vulva is itchy, swollen, or uncomfortable; or you have pain when you pee, check in with a doctor.

What can help: Vaginal infections can usually be treated with over-the-counter medicines or antibiotics prescribed by your doctor.


Vaginismus is a little-known condition that causes vaginal muscles to clench and tighten, especially when someone tries to put anything inside — a penis, sex toy, or even a tampon. Sometimes, the muscles spasms characteristic of vaginismus can be related to past sexual abuse or trauma or emotions around sex like fear and shame, Dr. Minkin says. But other times vaginismus happens even without past trauma or after having worked through trauma in therapy.

— Read on www.health.com/sex/painful-sex

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